While I haven’t been writing posts here for far too long, for many reasons (most of which are actually bad excuses), I have been keeping up with my WordPress Reader. Hence this reblog and the one previously.
When Freyja came abruptly into my life I relied heavily on Ember, both on her blog posts and on the lovely replies to the flailing emails I sent. And I’ve utilised her blog many times since then as a source of inspiration and guidance. For that alone I’d help boost this signal, but it’s not the main reason – not by a long shot.
This is very much a personal thing for me, even though I don’t know the unnamed friend, or Nicole, and I’m only acquainted with Ember through blogging and emails. It’s not the people – it’s the situation. I was in an abusive relationship for a year and a half, and while I was lucky that it never got this bad, it has left me with a lot of issues and unhealthy coping mechanisms. It’s why I’ve donated to Ember’s appeal for help, and why I donate monthly to Refuge, a UK charity that helps women and children escape abusive relationships of all kinds. It’s a ‘there but for the grace of God go I’ situation twice over for me – what with the abusive relationship in my mid-twenties, and my father being an alcoholic until I started high school when he went into rehab. Because if Dad had been a violent drunk as opposed to an uncoordinated, incoherent, melancholy one…
So yes, this appeal hit home. And while it is a request for funds to repay money already spent, had circumsatnces not been rushed this would have been to raise money to help someone escape an incredibly abusive situation, which is what I still see it as.
And as Ember said, if you can spare even a couple of dollars (or equivalent local currency) that would be awesome, if you can’t but can signal-boost that would also be awesome, and if you can do both that would be awesome too. Awesomeness all round!
EmberVoices: Listening for the Vanir
It’s been an absolutely exhausting trial of a year-plus for everyone I know. My households shared a bubble for 14 months of lockdown, which we are cautiously emerging from one step at a time. Everyone I know is facing some kind of personal trial or other, myself absolutely included.
I want to ask your help with one of them, today, please – if you can’t contribute directly, at least share the link along:
My friend Nicole and I, along with others in Treebridge coven, helped a mutual friend out of an abusive situation. It was handled on very short notice. I handled much of the logistical wrangling, while Nicole dove directly into the fray, hopping on a plane to collect our friend and drive her and her two cats across several states to live in the safer place we found for her.
Nicole floated the cost of…
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